You can do better (than me). Episode 5: Positivity

Entry: Positivity—Losing It and Finding It Again

Positivity used to be second nature to me. I never had to think about it, and life seemed to unfold in a way that rewarded my optimism. But somewhere along the line, I lost it. And what’s surprising is that it wasn’t a lack of positivity that was always my struggle—it’s the fact that I forgot how to maintain it when life got more complicated.

I think the shift from positivity to negativity started when I became a father. Not because I was scared or overly worried about my kids—quite the opposite. It was more about exhaustion. Parenthood drained me, and the more tired I became, the less patience I had for projects or relationships that didn’t yield quick results. My margins for error shrank, and I stopped investing in anything that seemed uncertain. In turn, I became more negative, more pessimistic about life.

That spontaneity and sense of adventure that once defined me started to fade. I stopped taking risks, stopped trusting that everything would fall into place. And that’s the irony—I built my best experiences in life by not thinking too hard about the risks. I just went for it. I trusted my gut, and things worked out. I wouldn’t have had two kids, moved across continents, or landed incredible jobs if I had been calculating the risks the whole time.

But when I moved to Spain, that positivity felt like it had led me into a trap. I was in a new country with no job, no solid plan, and everything felt like it was slipping. Instead of staying positive, I let my thoughts spiral. I became nostalgic for the past, for the comfort I had back in Argentina and New York. I focused more on what I had lost than on what I still had or could build.

That’s when I discovered Joe Dispenza’s ideas about parallel realities and how we shape our future with our thoughts. I realized that by dwelling on the negative, I was manifesting more negativity. I was stuck in a loop. I thought complaining would change my situation, but it only made things worse. I stopped trusting that things could get better, and that’s exactly what happened—they didn’t.

So now, I’m working to rebuild that positivity. It’s not easy after years of letting negativity creep in. But I’ve learned that it’s a choice, an act of trust, and a way of shaping the future. Positivity is more than just a mindset—it’s the foundation for everything that happens next.